malalaman mo yan if sya nagiinitiate sayo, although sabi nga nila don't assume unless stated. kaya test the waters. try mo syang ilibre once a month o kaya gawa ka ng something unusual once a month.
normal lang yan na manood padin, kahit ako nanonood padin kahit meron nakong gf and aware sya. ung amin naman kasi alam namin na may boundaries sa ganyan. so iassess nyo lang yan and magset kayo ng boundaries tungkol jan.